yest mornin main cricket khelne gaya tha like any other day
n i usually take my cell fone along with me
when i came back, i cud not find it
felt i did not take it with me....
so started searchin at my place
but kahin mila nahi
then i called on my cell n not reacable aa raha tha...i was sure tht battery to full hai since i charge in d nite
my vjti mates give missed calls...so called one of them n he said he cud get thru my cell at 8 am
i kept tryin in d mean time but no reply
finally when my wifey called from her cell after 9, someone picked n said hello hello n then cut it
she called back but again same reply...finally she called me n told cell kiske pass hai...so it aint at home.....
i realized tht someone was close to my bag at d nets n probably he mus hav flicked it....but then if someone wanted to steal he cud stolen my purse also since tht was next to it...i stopped thinkin n started to get ready before leavin for office
forget to mention tht i now lock my fone with a number combination as once accidently it got pressed and at 6 am i ended up callin my Dept Head once.....
so i was sure, person who had it can't call from it n he will hav to take it to someone to unlock it or sell it for cheap
so after gettin ready, i called jus to see if koi receive karta hai ya jus simply cuts it......to my surprise the fone rang n tht person picked up......maine bola ke ye mere fone hai aur kahi to ghir gaaya tha.....woh bola, mujhe ye chowpatty par mila hai....n asked me to call back after 30 min as he was busy..
mujhe laga mast goli de raha tha...main to gaya hi nahi tha at chowpatty n ghuma raha hai....
jus like tht i again called tht person...this time someone else picked n told his name as sunil....i asked him agar fone return karenge to acha hoga.....he asked me to come to at garden behind metro....tht seemed a bit of shady place...i told him mujhe to pata nahi hai woh jaga..what i know is metro theatre...so he agreed to come there....n thoda smart tha....asked me how will i recognize u....i told i will call u on tht no....he then gave me his hulia....i m wearin a black pant with a green shirt n mera aage walla daant nahi hai.....hearin d last line again put a question mark in my mind....it is worth goin to collect d cell from such person....
in d backdrop i cud hear a chatter from someone who was askin this person to stop tellin all this n jus keep d fone
fatte halat main i went to my brother's office n told him d story so far.....in fact i asked him to come with me....woh bolta hai...arre main kya karoonga..tu jha n dekh le......also met a friend on d way to brother's office...he also told d fact tht he is callin u to take d fone, means he will return.....
so finally decided to go n check it out myself.......kept abt rs. 150/- ready in d pocket.......when i reached tht place at metro, 3 ppl were there...one of them on the sittin on d rail n other 2 were chattin...they looked like those gardulas u find at azad maidan ya fir roadside heros....mast chapri types.......i realized it was them since they were lookin here n there n stared at me also a couple of times....i waited for a while bfore makin my first move.....i had taken my bhabi's cell with me n then called on my cell again....i assumed one amongst d gang wud speak n i will know its my cell...but then either they did not hear d ring or simply ignored it....tried this a couple of times but to no avail..koi utha bhi nahi raha tha na fone nikal kar dekh raha tha.....
so finally i asked "Kya aap mainse koi Sunil / Mukesh bhai hai...mere cell kahi to ghir gaya tha n unko mila hai..." hearin this, suddenly their faces had a smile....n they appeared a lot friendly......one of them told me....ab boliye kya karna hai....i took out the money i had kept ready in my top pocket.....but seein jus 150....woh bola kya..sir aap to majak kar rahe hai...hume to cell dena hi tha...but aap bhi dekheyi hum 3 log hain.......kuch to sochiye hamare liye...hume azad maidan par mila tha....kissko bech dete to 500 to de hi deta tha....but hum to wapas karna chahte the.....n now d other one started to contribute in the converstation.....300 do de dijiye.....maine bola woh to jyada hai....took out 100 more n told ye thik hai......fir usne cell nikala...apna hi tha....i took d cell gave d money n shook hands with all of them.....all mast happy happy lag rahe the....
well not sure where n how often ppl return the cell fones...in fact when i was narratin this incident to a friend of mine, his cell had fallen in the rick n tht rick fella took all d pains to get in touch with him...n when my friend was givin him some money he was refusin to take it also....
but felt such things can happen only in Amchi Mumbai....tht's d spirit of mumbai we all hav known...in all those july water woes ya train trajedies....its this spirit of Mumbaikars tht binds us together......n we all will again get to see a bit of durin d upcomin marathon....
in all this, i was also very happy....mera hua fone mujhe wapas mil gaya tha.....
well it was jus a 2k plain vanilla reliance LG handset.....with which one can sms n call...no r world / r connect etc etc...koi color display or additional features bhi nahi.also i had used it for more than 20 months...keys main se all nos were erased...apna pura courtship period main usne hi saath diya hai....and haan...sirf calls hi nahi, those N no. of sms messages which i mus hav sent to her.....i m quite attached to it.....n even after gettin galis from all at home includin ma'm also, i have still not changed it........
also it has close to 500+ nos...n goin thru tht pain of gettin in touch wth ppl to get their new nos wud have been a pain
so inspite of all the galis i must hav given to reliance i still continue to use it...n think will continue....but bfore all tht i think now for sure i will be changin my handset soon !!!
Friday, January 19, 2007
Thursday, January 11, 2007
Societal Pressures for Getting Married
these days its common tht ppl give preference to other things in life over marriage...as a result u will see more n more ppl focusin more on their career and marryin a bit late in their lives.....n this phenomenon is not only amongst guys.....gals r also very much into career minded....so if abhishek bachan is not married at the age of 33 so u hav aishwarya rai who also is not married even after being 34 yrs old....
its natural to hav aspirations in life n work todays achievin those aspirations...for some one being financially stable wud b imp, for some buyin a own house in a place like mumbai is d priority, for some workin in a competitive environment for 5-6 yrs wud come ahead of gettin married n gettin into mundane of homely chores for the rest of their lives
but in all this......i hav noticed tht when ppl workin towards their goals, suddenly d pressure on them to get married increases with each passing day....
most of this comes from parents.....for who all wud not like to see their daughter's / son's marriage and see them settled..hav hopes of playin with their grandchildren......
n in our society of ours, u wil hav those uncles n aunts who at all functions one attends comin over n askin u or ur parents abt your marriage..ke kya ho raha hai.....kab nakki kar rahe ho etc etc.....n d unfortunate part in this part of the world, is tht ppl start spreadin things behind the back tht "abhi tak shadi nahi hui hai...zaroor kuch to problem hai....shayad uska kuch affair tha which did not work....ya fir there is some other prob as a result of which still he / she is not gettin married...."
y cant they jus accept the fact tht boss things hav changed...ppl r more career minded than before.....n zaroori nahi hai tht he or she did not get married coz of some past relationships of theirs...n also even if they had some relationships which did not work, i can tell for from my experience, those ppl will b better to marry since they know how to handle relationships n how to care for others !!!
again when such ppl give their go ahead for marriage, the pressure instead of decreasin increases all the more....with each guy / gal they see for marriage, expectations r tht will say YES.......person wud hav some likes / dislikes but then parents expect them to overlook all those things n jus say YES......kabhi kabhi aisa lagta hai tht suddenly parents find marriage of their child a task tht has to be completed somehow r other.....
well i m sure persons r mature enough to know tht pressure is there but then at the end of the day its their life....they will hav to live it with the person for rest of the lives...n one can't say YES jus like to any Tom, Dick , Harry or for tht matter Reena / Rita / Ritu jus coz u r now 30+, u hav limited choices, so u better say YES to those who say YES to u....
v are in that era where arranged marriage still happen n our parents are still involved in the process.....i aint sure how the scene will b with our kids n also if they wud even ask us before gettin married....live in relationships r gettin as common in real life as also in reel life (remember Salaam Namaste, Woh Lamhe etc etc).....
communication is the key and i m sure if u take your parents into confidence they will understand and support u....
so lets face this transition period and handle all the pressure and pulls of the society but still stick to things which u wanna do at heart !!!
happy gettin married ;)
its natural to hav aspirations in life n work todays achievin those aspirations...for some one being financially stable wud b imp, for some buyin a own house in a place like mumbai is d priority, for some workin in a competitive environment for 5-6 yrs wud come ahead of gettin married n gettin into mundane of homely chores for the rest of their lives
but in all this......i hav noticed tht when ppl workin towards their goals, suddenly d pressure on them to get married increases with each passing day....
most of this comes from parents.....for who all wud not like to see their daughter's / son's marriage and see them settled..hav hopes of playin with their grandchildren......
n in our society of ours, u wil hav those uncles n aunts who at all functions one attends comin over n askin u or ur parents abt your marriage..ke kya ho raha hai.....kab nakki kar rahe ho etc etc.....n d unfortunate part in this part of the world, is tht ppl start spreadin things behind the back tht "abhi tak shadi nahi hui hai...zaroor kuch to problem hai....shayad uska kuch affair tha which did not work....ya fir there is some other prob as a result of which still he / she is not gettin married...."
y cant they jus accept the fact tht boss things hav changed...ppl r more career minded than before.....n zaroori nahi hai tht he or she did not get married coz of some past relationships of theirs...n also even if they had some relationships which did not work, i can tell for from my experience, those ppl will b better to marry since they know how to handle relationships n how to care for others !!!
again when such ppl give their go ahead for marriage, the pressure instead of decreasin increases all the more....with each guy / gal they see for marriage, expectations r tht will say YES.......person wud hav some likes / dislikes but then parents expect them to overlook all those things n jus say YES......kabhi kabhi aisa lagta hai tht suddenly parents find marriage of their child a task tht has to be completed somehow r other.....
well i m sure persons r mature enough to know tht pressure is there but then at the end of the day its their life....they will hav to live it with the person for rest of the lives...n one can't say YES jus like to any Tom, Dick , Harry or for tht matter Reena / Rita / Ritu jus coz u r now 30+, u hav limited choices, so u better say YES to those who say YES to u....
v are in that era where arranged marriage still happen n our parents are still involved in the process.....i aint sure how the scene will b with our kids n also if they wud even ask us before gettin married....live in relationships r gettin as common in real life as also in reel life (remember Salaam Namaste, Woh Lamhe etc etc).....
communication is the key and i m sure if u take your parents into confidence they will understand and support u....
so lets face this transition period and handle all the pressure and pulls of the society but still stick to things which u wanna do at heart !!!
happy gettin married ;)
Wednesday, January 10, 2007
"Andheri East" Blues
Its almost 2 months now since i hav moved to my new workplace in andheri east n it has been an experience in itself in these 2 months
right from d moment i get out of train n reach d office it has been a project in itself for me so far....
i knew things wud b bit tough, but it wud test me so much was beyond my imagination
i had got feedback from my friends of d harrowin experience of traffic in andheri east....how u sit in d rick / bus but then d vehicle jus does not move n how ppl on d road always get past u more often than not n to add to ur disappointment n frustration...
as soon as the train passes vile parle station, u will find ppl gettin up...n u r still wonderin there is still some time for andheri to come n why d hurry when u anyways hav to stand for 3 minutes more !!!
but then after a week or so i realized y u need to get off the train ASAP.....one reason is there r lots of ppl who wanna get in d train....other is d stations in andheri r not tht wide enough...so in case there is another train which also comes at the same then its like a sea of ppl who wanna get on the stairs....a couple of times i got caught in d middle and u jus hav to stop walkin as u wil b carried by d crowd.....d other day, i jus was abt to reach d stairs and then d other train came...ppl alighted n then d typical dhakas started....n then d uncle in front of me got agitated thinkin i m d one who is pushin everyone......mast filmi style main he had is arms up in d air n before i could react his hand was around my neck pushin me to go fwd if i was in such a hurry.....took me a minute to realize what's happenin n i cud jus mumble...its not me...its not me...fir uncle ne pyaar se haath nikala.....n me managed to save my neck !!!
d first struggle seems to b thru n now u r on road....so now u hav to reach ur office......i was under the impression tht ricks usually in mumbai r well managed especially in crowded areas...u will always hav a policewalla to regulate d ricks....ensure that all come in a line.....ppl also queue in a line........but then tht was my pressumption n not reality....there is no sign of any traffic police guy anywhere in d east.......its a free for all jamboree......n its a simple demand supply situation....d ricks r in short supply....demand is huge....no line....no system......ricks r only interested in goin long distance....n koi bhi close by places ke liye straight na bolta hai....fares of Rs. 20 ke liye koi khada bhi nahi karta tumko.....all wanna go to Saki Nakka, Powai , Seepz n for ppl like me whose office is at Chakala.....its a plain simple NO even when u offer to pay 10-15 bucks extra over the ricks....my colleagues in office even at times offer to pay double d meter but still tht at times is not good enough !!!
such is d situation tht those who r standin will ask d lucky ones who managed to get rickshaw fellas to agree to let them sit, where they r goin n can they join....some good samritans allow ppl to join them but then those ppl r few
so ricks r out of question....next was bus.......there r n no. of buses which go from here to seepz, kurla, ghatkopar, mulund vikhrole, thane etc etc which all start from andheri east...agarkar chowk....lookin at the number of options, kissiko bhi lagega atleast u can get thru any of the bus n go....but then itna simple hota to kya prob tha n y i wud hav written all this na....d bus q is like a long serpentine...jus goin n goin....u will never know here they end.....in fact this week i saw d Q reachin half of the railway over bridge for one of the buses......atleast unlike d ricks, here d buses r well managed...u hav a Q, lots of TCs who ensure those in Q only get thru, conductors givin tickets when ppl r standin in d Q......but then when d bus is abt to start ya kabhi koi nahi ho then mast scene hota hai....all try to jump as if d first one who get thru will get n award ya prize......n then it does not appear a civilized world.....full maar pit types scene hota hai....my friend has coined a new word for it....usually v used d word local for trains where such scenes r common in long distance trains...n here its "busocal" where ppl r standin on d gates....4-5 of them at d gate standin wit jus one foot / toe in d bus n rest everythin in air.....
ricks r out / buses r out...so with nothin else left, its me n my "do paiyon walli gadi".....n haan....ye bhi nahi simple hai.....since road par bhi utni hi junta hai jitni train / bus main hoti hai......n again on d roads u hav to jump d potholes , dug roads / footpaths, d work for Metro.....signal tak pahuchne ke baad road cross karne main aur dar lagta hai.....since cars / buses / bikes all drive there if they were on a F 1 circuit...prob gets accentuated with cars tryin to go pass u from front n also from d back.....i had come close twice in these short duration of almost being run over by speedin vehicles on the road since u look in front of u n then someone is wizzin u past u from behind....
every day i pray to god that i reach office safely n then thank him before sleepin after comin home in one piece.....
in my earlier office, 2nd n 4th sat were holidays.....here all the saturdays r workin....but then saturdays r the only days when i feel like goin to office...now dont get tht impression tht i hav become sincere ya main sudhar gaya hoon....saturdays r d days when SEEPZ main all those IT cos r closed....as a result from station to d bus to d roads, everything is relatively empty...u dont see those traffic jams at chakala signal....vehicles do move.....u get a bus n if its ur lucky day u will get a seat in d bus.....
atleast my office is located jus after chakala....so atleast its not tht bad but then i can empathize for those who work in Saki Naka n beyond...it wud b a harrowing experience n d saddest part is u hav to go thru this day in n day out !!!
i m sure ppl who work hav to go this ordeal on a daily basis will b cuttin short their lives by atleast a couple of years ---courtesy d mental agony, d physical exertion walkin it down and then breathin more CO/CO2 rather than Oxygen....
so for all those who work in Andheri East...u better start workin on change in job unless u wanna Die Young
right from d moment i get out of train n reach d office it has been a project in itself for me so far....
i knew things wud b bit tough, but it wud test me so much was beyond my imagination
i had got feedback from my friends of d harrowin experience of traffic in andheri east....how u sit in d rick / bus but then d vehicle jus does not move n how ppl on d road always get past u more often than not n to add to ur disappointment n frustration...
as soon as the train passes vile parle station, u will find ppl gettin up...n u r still wonderin there is still some time for andheri to come n why d hurry when u anyways hav to stand for 3 minutes more !!!
but then after a week or so i realized y u need to get off the train ASAP.....one reason is there r lots of ppl who wanna get in d train....other is d stations in andheri r not tht wide enough...so in case there is another train which also comes at the same then its like a sea of ppl who wanna get on the stairs....a couple of times i got caught in d middle and u jus hav to stop walkin as u wil b carried by d crowd.....d other day, i jus was abt to reach d stairs and then d other train came...ppl alighted n then d typical dhakas started....n then d uncle in front of me got agitated thinkin i m d one who is pushin everyone......mast filmi style main he had is arms up in d air n before i could react his hand was around my neck pushin me to go fwd if i was in such a hurry.....took me a minute to realize what's happenin n i cud jus mumble...its not me...its not me...fir uncle ne pyaar se haath nikala.....n me managed to save my neck !!!
d first struggle seems to b thru n now u r on road....so now u hav to reach ur office......i was under the impression tht ricks usually in mumbai r well managed especially in crowded areas...u will always hav a policewalla to regulate d ricks....ensure that all come in a line.....ppl also queue in a line........but then tht was my pressumption n not reality....there is no sign of any traffic police guy anywhere in d east.......its a free for all jamboree......n its a simple demand supply situation....d ricks r in short supply....demand is huge....no line....no system......ricks r only interested in goin long distance....n koi bhi close by places ke liye straight na bolta hai....fares of Rs. 20 ke liye koi khada bhi nahi karta tumko.....all wanna go to Saki Nakka, Powai , Seepz n for ppl like me whose office is at Chakala.....its a plain simple NO even when u offer to pay 10-15 bucks extra over the ricks....my colleagues in office even at times offer to pay double d meter but still tht at times is not good enough !!!
such is d situation tht those who r standin will ask d lucky ones who managed to get rickshaw fellas to agree to let them sit, where they r goin n can they join....some good samritans allow ppl to join them but then those ppl r few
so ricks r out of question....next was bus.......there r n no. of buses which go from here to seepz, kurla, ghatkopar, mulund vikhrole, thane etc etc which all start from andheri east...agarkar chowk....lookin at the number of options, kissiko bhi lagega atleast u can get thru any of the bus n go....but then itna simple hota to kya prob tha n y i wud hav written all this na....d bus q is like a long serpentine...jus goin n goin....u will never know here they end.....in fact this week i saw d Q reachin half of the railway over bridge for one of the buses......atleast unlike d ricks, here d buses r well managed...u hav a Q, lots of TCs who ensure those in Q only get thru, conductors givin tickets when ppl r standin in d Q......but then when d bus is abt to start ya kabhi koi nahi ho then mast scene hota hai....all try to jump as if d first one who get thru will get n award ya prize......n then it does not appear a civilized world.....full maar pit types scene hota hai....my friend has coined a new word for it....usually v used d word local for trains where such scenes r common in long distance trains...n here its "busocal" where ppl r standin on d gates....4-5 of them at d gate standin wit jus one foot / toe in d bus n rest everythin in air.....
ricks r out / buses r out...so with nothin else left, its me n my "do paiyon walli gadi".....n haan....ye bhi nahi simple hai.....since road par bhi utni hi junta hai jitni train / bus main hoti hai......n again on d roads u hav to jump d potholes , dug roads / footpaths, d work for Metro.....signal tak pahuchne ke baad road cross karne main aur dar lagta hai.....since cars / buses / bikes all drive there if they were on a F 1 circuit...prob gets accentuated with cars tryin to go pass u from front n also from d back.....i had come close twice in these short duration of almost being run over by speedin vehicles on the road since u look in front of u n then someone is wizzin u past u from behind....
every day i pray to god that i reach office safely n then thank him before sleepin after comin home in one piece.....
in my earlier office, 2nd n 4th sat were holidays.....here all the saturdays r workin....but then saturdays r the only days when i feel like goin to office...now dont get tht impression tht i hav become sincere ya main sudhar gaya hoon....saturdays r d days when SEEPZ main all those IT cos r closed....as a result from station to d bus to d roads, everything is relatively empty...u dont see those traffic jams at chakala signal....vehicles do move.....u get a bus n if its ur lucky day u will get a seat in d bus.....
atleast my office is located jus after chakala....so atleast its not tht bad but then i can empathize for those who work in Saki Naka n beyond...it wud b a harrowing experience n d saddest part is u hav to go thru this day in n day out !!!
i m sure ppl who work hav to go this ordeal on a daily basis will b cuttin short their lives by atleast a couple of years ---courtesy d mental agony, d physical exertion walkin it down and then breathin more CO/CO2 rather than Oxygen....
so for all those who work in Andheri East...u better start workin on change in job unless u wanna Die Young
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