Societal Pressures for Getting Married

these days its common tht ppl give preference to other things in life over marriage...as a result u will see more n more ppl focusin more on their career and marryin a bit late in their lives.....n this phenomenon is not only amongst guys.....gals r also very much into career minded....so if abhishek bachan is not married at the age of 33 so u hav aishwarya rai who also is not married even after being 34 yrs old....

its natural to hav aspirations in life n work todays achievin those aspirations...for some one being financially stable wud b imp, for some buyin a own house in a place like mumbai is d priority, for some workin in a competitive environment for 5-6 yrs wud come ahead of gettin married n gettin into mundane of homely chores for the rest of their lives

but in all this......i hav noticed tht when ppl workin towards their goals, suddenly d pressure on them to get married increases with each passing day....

most of this comes from parents.....for who all wud not like to see their daughter's / son's marriage and see them settled..hav hopes of playin with their grandchildren......

n in our society of ours, u wil hav those uncles n aunts who at all functions one attends comin over n askin u or ur parents abt your marriage..ke kya ho raha hai.....kab nakki kar rahe ho etc etc.....n d unfortunate part in this part of the world, is tht ppl start spreadin things behind the back tht "abhi tak shadi nahi hui hai...zaroor kuch to problem hai....shayad uska kuch affair tha which did not work....ya fir there is some other prob as a result of which still he / she is not gettin married...."

y cant they jus accept the fact tht boss things hav changed...ppl r more career minded than before.....n zaroori nahi hai tht he or she did not get married coz of some past relationships of theirs...n also even if they had some relationships which did not work, i can tell for from my experience, those ppl will b better to marry since they know how to handle relationships n how to care for others !!!

again when such ppl give their go ahead for marriage, the pressure instead of decreasin increases all the more....with each guy / gal they see for marriage, expectations r tht will say YES.......person wud hav some likes / dislikes but then parents expect them to overlook all those things n jus say YES......kabhi kabhi aisa lagta hai tht suddenly parents find marriage of their child a task tht has to be completed somehow r other.....

well i m sure persons r mature enough to know tht pressure is there but then at the end of the day its their life....they will hav to live it with the person for rest of the lives...n one can't say YES jus like to any Tom, Dick , Harry or for tht matter Reena / Rita / Ritu jus coz u r now 30+, u hav limited choices, so u better say YES to those who say YES to u....

v are in that era where arranged marriage still happen n our parents are still involved in the process.....i aint sure how the scene will b with our kids n also if they wud even ask us before gettin married....live in relationships r gettin as common in real life as also in reel life (remember Salaam Namaste, Woh Lamhe etc etc).....

communication is the key and i m sure if u take your parents into confidence they will understand and support u....

so lets face this transition period and handle all the pressure and pulls of the society but still stick to things which u wanna do at heart !!!

happy gettin married ;)