"ek ladka aur ek ladki kabhi dost nahi ho sakte...."remember this classic line from d movie...MPK
jus made me ponder, is there somethin wrong in d way we think or jus tht we hav been brought up to think in this direction only
why is tht when two person hav quite a few things in common n if they decide to b friends, why is tht their gender comes in between to decide if they can b friends or not !!!
ho sakta hai tht their frienship gets converted into love n they go on to get married n live happily ever after...
n it is very much possible tht they get married to different persons of their own choices and still continue to be very good friends..
when u meet some person n start talkin with him or her, u dont see to what caste he belongs to, or from where he has come from or whether he is a vernac or a convent student ya fir woh category walla hai ya open.....if u jus get along nicely wit tht person, tht's it. rest all things are jus secondary....n most of d times u will come to know of all such things only later on as u get to know each other better...
n by tht time d bond of friendship is so strong tht all these things r totally irrelevant...
yes...at times a boy may be attracted to a gal and tht was the first reason why he approached her...but then as he comes to know abt the gal, it might happen tht he feels tht gal is nice n can a good friend of his....n tht attraction has now converted into strong bond of friendship...
unfortunately what we are fed in our minds is "ek ladka aur ek ladki kabhi dost nahi ho sakte" n as a result quite a lot amongst us hesitate to talk with the opposite sex...all sort of crazy questions start comin to our mind "my friends will start teasin me, i will b the laughin stock, what if she calls at my home mere ghar par pata chala to kya hoga, etc etc etc...."
so in schools/colleges/work place, u wud hav jus plain normal talks, or strictly as i call it "Hi, Hello, Bye" type of conversations....u prefer to hang out out with ppl of ur gender and tend to avoid rest all of the other gender
as a result most of us lose out in havin very good friends jus coz of their gender and social taboo in our mindset...
its time we changed d thinkin....if not of our parents but atleast ensure tht our kids know the importance of friendship n havin friends based on how they gel with the other person n not on d basis of whether d person is a guy or a gal....
jus made me ponder, is there somethin wrong in d way we think or jus tht we hav been brought up to think in this direction only
why is tht when two person hav quite a few things in common n if they decide to b friends, why is tht their gender comes in between to decide if they can b friends or not !!!
ho sakta hai tht their frienship gets converted into love n they go on to get married n live happily ever after...
n it is very much possible tht they get married to different persons of their own choices and still continue to be very good friends..
when u meet some person n start talkin with him or her, u dont see to what caste he belongs to, or from where he has come from or whether he is a vernac or a convent student ya fir woh category walla hai ya open.....if u jus get along nicely wit tht person, tht's it. rest all things are jus secondary....n most of d times u will come to know of all such things only later on as u get to know each other better...
n by tht time d bond of friendship is so strong tht all these things r totally irrelevant...
yes...at times a boy may be attracted to a gal and tht was the first reason why he approached her...but then as he comes to know abt the gal, it might happen tht he feels tht gal is nice n can a good friend of his....n tht attraction has now converted into strong bond of friendship...
unfortunately what we are fed in our minds is "ek ladka aur ek ladki kabhi dost nahi ho sakte" n as a result quite a lot amongst us hesitate to talk with the opposite sex...all sort of crazy questions start comin to our mind "my friends will start teasin me, i will b the laughin stock, what if she calls at my home mere ghar par pata chala to kya hoga, etc etc etc...."
so in schools/colleges/work place, u wud hav jus plain normal talks, or strictly as i call it "Hi, Hello, Bye" type of conversations....u prefer to hang out out with ppl of ur gender and tend to avoid rest all of the other gender
as a result most of us lose out in havin very good friends jus coz of their gender and social taboo in our mindset...
its time we changed d thinkin....if not of our parents but atleast ensure tht our kids know the importance of friendship n havin friends based on how they gel with the other person n not on d basis of whether d person is a guy or a gal....
1 comment:
frankly speaking..u start talking to gal only if u r attracted to her... unless she is in ur group and have to interact with her..then after tht ur friendship develops .. being from small town and only boys school i know there are issues in interacting with gals..but now things are changing. everyone have started to accept tht fact that gals n guys can be really good friends..
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